“We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.”

Earl Nightingale was an exceptional writer of motivational thoughts and guides for individuals seeking to embark on new stages in their lives. The beginning of something new, for any individual, is the bridging of a gap between one's old self, and the new self they which to inhabit until the next change in their lives. For some, this bridge manifests itself in several ways; the choice to be a better partner, individual, and a healthier person are all choices that are open for anyone who takes the time to actively pursue them. The choice of the matter negates then the frequent desire of many to rely only on the causation of their circumstances to determine their destiny; a destiny which should be innately chosen, as opposed to imposed.

For myself, the changing of ones destiny, or even a path is one which is started with a single step. Since starting this blog, it amazes me still how many steps I have taken in such a short time. So I would like to take this post and talk a little about the steps I have left behind, and the ones I still have left to take, not only alone, but now with others who are inevitably tied to me through my relationships with them.

This thought, in and of itself recalls me back to one of my first beloved poems by Robert Frost:

*not my artwork and click image to read*

Whats that you Say? Bella's still Alive?

Alive and kicking!

Well gentle readers, I have missed you so! Im sorry for such a late arrival and for being neglectful with my comments and reading your blogs! However, I am officially back, and also, gainfully employed IRL!

Now that I am engaged and employed me and SO are finally talking about our wedding in two years time. Its time to get serious, which is why I now have on me a magazine from Martha Stewart sent by my sister. Things just got real folks!
Anyways, I wanted to update you on my life...new posts coming soon! But first, its time for me to play catchup with all your lovely blogs! Expect comments soon!

All the best
Bella

"The world has grown suspicious of anything that looks like a happily married life."

Oscar Wilde was an interesting character. He dedicated much of his creative life to the writing of human relationships, and as such, probably was a natural born cynic. It also didn't help that at the time, his penchant for men made him a somewhat wealthy, but social pariah. It doesn't surprise me then that he most eloquently put this quote together, which many today prescribe to- there's no such thing as happy union, more often in marriage, its a state of mutual indifference more than anything.

Well, Wilde, as much as I like the Importance of Being Earnest, I'm going to have to go to the mat with you on this one. Because as naive as it may seem, I do believe in a happy marriage, and I do not suspect that the appearance of one thing means another. In other words, I call bullshit.

"Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it."

Out of all the quotes I have used so far, this one is by far my favorite!

No mountain is worth climbing unless it is high enough to make it worth the effort. No love is worth having unless it is worth the struggle to keep it true.

There are so many things in life that require a calculated amount of risk. Its necessary in my eyes, in so many ways, to maintain that sense of accomplishment by acknowledging where we tumbled, because we rose so high.

I guess this is the way I want to blog after the events of the last few days. I feel refreshed, rejuvenated, and most of all, I'm still with my best friend in the whole world.